I think I'm somewhere in between... I switch from introversion to extroversion depending on my mood, circumstances, etc. I wonder why...
At some point in college (when I definitely considered myself an introvert like my parents), I was working up the gumption to ask a girl out. I realized, what the hell could possibly go wrong... the worst case scenario is that she'd say no, and we'd either never talk again or she'd be a good friend with clearly defined boundaries. I think after that experience (I was turned down and we were friends throughout college), I approached a lot of interaction like that.
While I still have introverted tendencies (I often don't go out and rather stay at home with my girl of 7 years, Michelle), I do talk quite a bit and am always the first person to ask the stupid question. While that may affect other people's perceptions of me, I think in the long term, those perceptions converge upon the true me.
I guess I would urge people to be comfortable... if you're comfortable being quiet, great. If you're being quiet because you're uncomfortable (undue influence) or because you're afraid of being put in a position of being uncomfortable, I guess it seems best to eliminate the source of that.
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At some point in college (when I definitely considered myself an introvert like my parents), I was working up the gumption to ask a girl out. I realized, what the hell could possibly go wrong... the worst case scenario is that she'd say no, and we'd either never talk again or she'd be a good friend with clearly defined boundaries. I think after that experience (I was turned down and we were friends throughout college), I approached a lot of interaction like that.
While I still have introverted tendencies (I often don't go out and rather stay at home with my girl of 7 years, Michelle), I do talk quite a bit and am always the first person to ask the stupid question. While that may affect other people's perceptions of me, I think in the long term, those perceptions converge upon the true me.
I guess I would urge people to be comfortable... if you're comfortable being quiet, great. If you're being quiet because you're uncomfortable (undue influence) or because you're afraid of being put in a position of being uncomfortable, I guess it seems best to eliminate the source of that.