"Women's ability to produce children is the greatest resource the human race has."
What makes you say this? Every organism on the planet has the ability to reproduce itself. I don't see it as the most important resource of human society beyond the most basic need for continuing the species. In fact, the most important resource the human species has at its disposal is the capacity for reason and conscious thought, the ability to subvert "animal" urges: hunger, discomfort, lust, anger, selfishness--what were codified as "deadly sins" by everyone's favorite tightasses, the Catholics--in favor of "higher" reasoning. After a certain age, you don't beat up your brother just because he got the last cookie because you know your mother's going to go to the store and buy more and you'll get one. You don't start pawing the first attractive woman you see at a party because you've learned to enjoy the courtship process that helps you determine your the suitability of your intended mate (and remember folks, even lizards have courtship!). Society has placed a lot of checks and balances against succumbing to these potentially destructive forces. Most of them are skewed towards "protecting", which ultimately turns into "repressing" female sexuality. I'd like to believe that it's out of a sense of respect for the obviously enormous power of said sexuality, but I don't think any of these purity-ball dads retain any of that anymore. This is why matrilineal societies make more sense, in those pre-DNA-test days. It is very easy to muddy the waters about who someone's father is. It is much, much harder to obfuscate who came out of whose womb. As for being with people who have had lots of partners, women have been dealing with this for years. Be glad s/he's with *you* now, learn a few original tricks to blow those other memories out of the water, and for god's sake keep quiet about it. Very few people get dumped solely on the basis of their sexual performance.
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timeasmymeasure
Re: virginity
Date: 2006-06-12 12:42 pm (UTC)What makes you say this? Every organism on the planet has the ability to reproduce itself. I don't see it as the most important resource of human society beyond the most basic need for continuing the species.
In fact, the most important resource the human species has at its disposal is the capacity for reason and conscious thought, the ability to subvert "animal" urges: hunger, discomfort, lust, anger, selfishness--what were codified as "deadly sins" by everyone's favorite tightasses, the Catholics--in favor of "higher" reasoning. After a certain age, you don't beat up your brother just because he got the last cookie because you know your mother's going to go to the store and buy more and you'll get one. You don't start pawing the first attractive woman you see at a party because you've learned to enjoy the courtship process that helps you determine your the suitability of your intended mate (and remember folks, even lizards have courtship!).
Society has placed a lot of checks and balances against succumbing to these potentially destructive forces. Most of them are skewed towards "protecting", which ultimately turns into "repressing" female sexuality. I'd like to believe that it's out of a sense of respect for the obviously enormous power of said sexuality, but I don't think any of these purity-ball dads retain any of that anymore.
This is why matrilineal societies make more sense, in those pre-DNA-test days. It is very easy to muddy the waters about who someone's father is. It is much, much harder to obfuscate who came out of whose womb.
As for being with people who have had lots of partners, women have been dealing with this for years. Be glad s/he's with *you* now, learn a few original tricks to blow those other memories out of the water, and for god's sake keep quiet about it. Very few people get dumped solely on the basis of their sexual performance.