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I've realized that I could never effectively argue with most anti-choice activists about birth control and abortion because we would be making completely different assumptions about the world -- different and fundamentally incompatible paradigms, in Kuhn's terms (since I've been reading lots of and about him in my philosophy of science class). Their arguments about what the Bible says about sex and other topics hold no weight for me. My arguments about problems of abused and neglected children, overpopulation, and a woman's right to control the course of her life hold little or no weight for them.
The point where we might be able to actually speak to one another, rather than past one another, is the issue of viability and when "life" starts, but even there they take what I see as ridiculously extreme views such as "life starts at conception" or sometimes with the possibility of conception (thus, the fight against birth control as a preventative measure) that I can't possibly agree with, given the messy realities of life: so many fertilized eggs don't implant, so many proto-fetuses don't last even a week, etc.
Furthermore, if they take this stance, why aren't they attacking in-vitro fertilization as vehemently as they are abortion and birth control? Multiple fetuses are grown and then one (or sometimes a few, but certainly not all) is implanted, and the rest are discarded. Isn't that murder in their eyes? Shouldn't all viable fetuses be given the chance to live in that case too? Funny how the intention of the couple seems to change the morality of the fetuses: people who are going through in-vitro fertilization want to be parents while people practicing birth control don't.
Along those same lines, it's also very strange that some anti-choice people take childlessness to be irresponsible, while from an environmental perspective, I think that having children is the more irresponsible choice (which, of course, some eco-minded parents mitigate in various ways, as I hope I would too if/when I have children -- but all things considered, that's still another person using a lifetime's-worth of resources, which is not small even when minimized). And moreover, making sure that one has children at a point in one's life when they can be best provided for seems to be, to me, a lot more responsible than risking having kids as soon as one starts having sex, which for a very large part of the population is very young (even with abstinence-only education like I grew up with, as a recent study shows). Of course, the anti-choice people would say one shouldn't be having sex until one is prepared to have children (which is the often-unsaid corollary to most of their points), but that's a whole 'nother can of worms with its own set of worldview incompatibilities, and I'll save that for another post (though you're welcome to rail in the comments if you want to).
No wonder this is such a hotly-contested debate. Except that it's not really a debate at all.
(NOTE: I don't mean to imply that one side is more "rational" than the other, even though I have made it clear which "side" I am on. These sorts of disagreements happen all the time, in many areas. My main argument is that the incommensurability of worldviews prevent the two sides from even seeing eye-to-eye.)
The point where we might be able to actually speak to one another, rather than past one another, is the issue of viability and when "life" starts, but even there they take what I see as ridiculously extreme views such as "life starts at conception" or sometimes with the possibility of conception (thus, the fight against birth control as a preventative measure) that I can't possibly agree with, given the messy realities of life: so many fertilized eggs don't implant, so many proto-fetuses don't last even a week, etc.
Furthermore, if they take this stance, why aren't they attacking in-vitro fertilization as vehemently as they are abortion and birth control? Multiple fetuses are grown and then one (or sometimes a few, but certainly not all) is implanted, and the rest are discarded. Isn't that murder in their eyes? Shouldn't all viable fetuses be given the chance to live in that case too? Funny how the intention of the couple seems to change the morality of the fetuses: people who are going through in-vitro fertilization want to be parents while people practicing birth control don't.
Along those same lines, it's also very strange that some anti-choice people take childlessness to be irresponsible, while from an environmental perspective, I think that having children is the more irresponsible choice (which, of course, some eco-minded parents mitigate in various ways, as I hope I would too if/when I have children -- but all things considered, that's still another person using a lifetime's-worth of resources, which is not small even when minimized). And moreover, making sure that one has children at a point in one's life when they can be best provided for seems to be, to me, a lot more responsible than risking having kids as soon as one starts having sex, which for a very large part of the population is very young (even with abstinence-only education like I grew up with, as a recent study shows). Of course, the anti-choice people would say one shouldn't be having sex until one is prepared to have children (which is the often-unsaid corollary to most of their points), but that's a whole 'nother can of worms with its own set of worldview incompatibilities, and I'll save that for another post (though you're welcome to rail in the comments if you want to).
No wonder this is such a hotly-contested debate. Except that it's not really a debate at all.
(NOTE: I don't mean to imply that one side is more "rational" than the other, even though I have made it clear which "side" I am on. These sorts of disagreements happen all the time, in many areas. My main argument is that the incommensurability of worldviews prevent the two sides from even seeing eye-to-eye.)
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Date: 2007-05-08 03:24 am (UTC)There's just no way to make people responsible or accountable unless they falling into a serious enough extreme that it gets to be difficult to not do something. It's not like you can make the parents actually talk through their plans or even to make them make solid decisions when they aren't. Trying to regulate it won't work. I think the best is just a "to each his/her own"...I do like how I believe Planned Parenthood does make mothers wait a period before making their decision and sure that they are well-informed. But that doesn't work with every decision, especially once a child is born...this is how we get things like the Prussian Blue twins whose parents are very white supremacist and home schooling these girls and giving them very false information. These kids will be screwed over when they become adults or have a very narrow social group unless they rebel.
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Date: 2007-05-08 03:38 am (UTC)As Keaneau Reeves' character said in Parenthood (which, incidentally, was the best role evar for him -- spaced-out teenage stoner), "You know, Mrs. Buckman, you need a license to buy a dog, to drive a car - hell, you even need a license to catch a fish. But they'll let any butt-reaming asshole be a father." (As a side note, the version we had was recorded from Utah TV and was censored -- "butt-reaming asshole" was dubbed over as "washed-up deadbeat." I didn't know until now that the original quote was so ... colorful!)
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Date: 2007-05-08 02:50 pm (UTC)Not true. About of half of pregnancies are planned, half are unplanned. About half the unplanned pregnancies end in abortion. There are about 10,000 births a day in the US and about 3,300 abortions.
Why do you assume that unplanned pregnancies result in child abuse--do you have statistics on that?
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Date: 2007-05-08 04:13 am (UTC)Also this is no more about the bible than it is about logic- not really. If people who talk about following the laws of the bible as stated actually did so they would still be stoning women for letting their hair show. It's about societies, culture, politics, power... and the arguments around those things are rarely logical.
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Date: 2007-05-08 04:19 am (UTC)I think the "having kids is responsible" notion came from the early days of the Christian church, when it needed to increase its membership to gain strength and thus needed parents to have a lot of kids that they could raise Christian. That definitely no longer applies... But then again, I'm not holding my view from a religious viewpoint, either, which probably changes my perspective on the issue from that of a lot of pro-life people. For instance, I'm not even sure what is meant by "their arguments about what the Bible says about sex". Last I understood, it said not to have sex unless you were married, which... doesn't seem related to abortion, but rather belongs under the sex-ed debate.
I'm also more strongly against abortion the farther along the pregnancy is; anyone who has seen a partial birth abortion cannot claim that it involves no child abuse and thus is a better alternative than being born.
Then again, never having been pregnant, I can't say that my views wouldn't change were it I that found myself pregnant tomorrow, and thus I would never judge personally anyone who did utilize that option until I've been in their shoes.
Also, it's not like I can't understand the other side of the debate... there's nothing wrong with my rationality; I just don't agree that a mother should be able to choose to take the life of her child before it's born when she can't decide to do so after it's born and fail to see how the two are different.
Regardless, it's a debate I never enter, as it is no more than an exercise in futility and frustration.
As a random side note, it also makes it hard to identify completely with a political affiliation, since I'm quite liberal regarding most other social issues ("most" meaning "all that I can think of at the moment") :P.
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Date: 2007-05-08 04:38 am (UTC)The intact-dilation-and-extraction issue is such a red herring though. These procedures are rarely performed and when they are it is usually because the child or mother has some health risk that couldn't be detected earlier in gestation. I just can't see not allowing someone to abort a child with hydroencephaly, even if some people find the procedure by which is it done to be rather gruesome. Carrying a child to term that will likely kill the mother upon delivery and likely won't live to delivery itself is also pretty gruesome.
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Date: 2007-05-08 06:02 am (UTC)Even if the child is already dead? It's my understanding that very few women get these done, and it's not because they waited until the last minute to make a decision about whether to have the child or not...I thought usually it's because there's very serious health risks that point or a dead fetus.
I can understand why people would be pro-life. I was. But when I read about the wide range of circumstances, I definitely lean toward more pro-choice. I'm not sure I'd want to be told what to do, and my circumstances/decisions/religious views/etc. aren't the same as someone else's so I'm hesitant to impose my worldview especially at a legislative level. Areas of the country that are deeply religious would just probably be unlikely to have abortion areas of the hospitals/clinics due to no demand and likely I guess areas like more metro cities would.
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Date: 2007-05-08 03:07 pm (UTC)The difference is that once the baby is born, the woman can effectively cut all ties to the baby without harming it. (By, say, abandoning the baby at the fire station.) Much before then, she can't walk away from the fetus without first killing it.
We don't generally require that one person give up their life (or money, even) to save the life of another, though we consider it honorable to do so. Why, then, should the unborn have more rights to their mother's bodies than the born do?
I once heard that a $400 donation to Unicef would save the life of a child. The number may be off, but certainly, there is a monetary amount that would, statistically speaking, save a child. Yet, we do not, as society, require that people give money to save children.
Suppose person Y is a bone marrow doaner for person Z, who will die without a donation. We might call person Y a ass for not giving bone marrow in such a circumstance, we don't call person Y a murder for not doing it, nor do we legally obligate person Y to do that.
Yet, you argue that a pregnant woman MUST give up rights to her body--must allow the fetus to take over and effect a number of vital systems (lungs, heart, blood, etc) for 3/4 of a year--risking her own life in the process (though that risk is relatively minor). To do otherwise, or to interfere with this body takeover--is murder. Why does this unborn fetus have more rights than an adult in need of bone marrow, or a the child in Kenya who needs vaccinations?
When the day comes that a woman can walk away from her fetus, I'll call abortion illegal. (Though depending on demand, their could be a thorny ethical issue of who pays for the care of the fetus.)
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Date: 2007-05-08 06:51 am (UTC)(Also, I dislike the prejudice in the liberal Bay Area that Christianity is stupid and faith based decisions are simply stupid. One doesn't have to agree with a position to be able to consider its validity... but doing so requires respecting the axioms and internal logic of an opposing worldview. But that is a discussion for another time).
On the other hand, I am well aware that there are a lot of issues that are at stake with something like abortion, or even birth control (because, depending on how one defines life, even oral contraceptives are arguably abortive in at least one of their mechanisms by hindering the efficience of the fallopian tubes so that a fertilzed embryo simply doesn't make it to the uterus in time to implant and thus is discarded as nonviable). Abortion especially is not an easy choice, for anyone, and where things become tricky is that I'd much rather someone who wants to have one be able to do it in a way that is as safe as possible and one that's not likely to cause future reproductive consequences.
I figure, then, that all I can do is decide what I would do for myself and let other people do the same.
I wish, sometimes, that people could really see the world from another perspective. That we could set aside our own worldviews and try to argue something with the logic of an alternate one, one that is completely different from our own.
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Date: 2007-05-08 08:53 am (UTC)It's in the prevention methods that the difference of opinions becomes really infuriating. Abstinence-only sex education is almost criminally negligent. But the difference comes regarding the nature of sex itself. Again, we all share the same idea that sex is powerful and slightly dangerous and not to be taken lightly. But the religious-based arguments against sex are all based on the idea that sexual desire is unnatural and bad, and therefore the only way to handle it is to reject it except in very narrow, rarified circumstances. Conversely, the more inclusive programs teach that sexual desire is not inherently bad, but an urge like any other and can be managed in a variety of ways. And this lack of condemnation, I think, is what makes it effective. Because trying to stem the tide of adolescent and post-adolescent hormones is a losing battle. And trying to paint sex as bad and unnatural could potentially be as damaging as an eating disorder. We don't tell our kids that getting hungry or thirsty or lonely or tired is bad, do we?
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Date: 2007-05-08 10:08 am (UTC)On the other hand, I think the kind of abstinence education that works is the kind that uses definitions of abstinence that are empowering... not 'I'm saying no because I'm afraid of what God/my parents/my teachers will do to me if they find out' but 'I'm saying no, right now, in this circumstance because I am not comfortable with having sex' and gives people freedom to find their reasons to have or not have sex... and also teaches people how to have sex safely so that whatever choice someone makes, he/she can feel empowered by it.
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Date: 2007-05-08 12:09 pm (UTC)They do attack these things. There are organizations to adopt frozen embryos, for one. And "they-don't-attack-it-as-much" argument isn't a fair one, either, btw. One has to concentrate one's efforts.
I have more thoughts, but it will take me a while to post them.
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Date: 2007-05-08 02:35 pm (UTC)The problem I have with most abortion prohibitionists is that their position seems to be incoherent. The two major stumbling points i can think of off the top of my head are (a) the definition of human life and (b) the rape exception, both of which are examples of ways that they contradict themselves.
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Date: 2007-05-08 03:28 pm (UTC)The Roman Catholic pro-life position does not have these inconsistencies, and they are frequently the most vehement (and sucessful in generating legal restrictions and bans) of the pro-lifers. There is no rape exemption, IVF is wrong (and they fight it), the death penalty is wrong (and they fight it), etc. But a consistent argument does not make the basis assumptions any more correct.
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Date: 2007-05-08 05:21 pm (UTC)This line of thinking allows me to voice that such thinking is really fallacious through a reductio ad absurdum. If it is immoral to take actions to prevent the possibility of life (through abortion, contraception), then doesn't that mean that we're all personally obligated to conceive as many children as possible? By choosing to remain abstinent, even if only for a moment, we are all preventing the potential for human life to occur. Granted, there are some people who believe variations on exactly exactly this principle, and decide to have ridiculously large families. However, given the environmental and financial impact of explosive populatoin growth, this cannot be the only moral in play.
Meh, I think one of the only things that really happen from these types of "debates" is not so much to foster understanding for each other's point of view, because arguably "pro-choice" and "pro-life" camps are rested on what they believe to be solid logic. Instead, it degenerates into a bunch of people telling the other group what to believe and think. Whereas, if people want to live a "pro-life" existence, let them... but not at the expense of allowing others to make their own choices about difficult moral questions.
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Date: 2007-05-09 11:52 am (UTC)If you believe (on some level) that women should be mothers, the abortion is a horrible thing. Not because of the fetus, but because it's a denial of one's proper role in life. So is birth control, really. On the other hand, practically speaking, there'd be major problems if all women went around having unprotected sex willie-nillie. So, to reconcile these two things, people sex outside marriage is wrong (with the implicit assumption that in marriage, there is financial support for children), and that abortion and birth control are wrong. (I'm not intending that this apply to everyone who is pro-life, but I think it does describe the pro-life/anti-birth control group.)
Once you've taken that stand, you need some logic. The question of when life begins is inherently a fuzzy one. The screaming baby is more real to most everyone than the unobservable zygote, and morning-sickness-causing embryo and the squirming fetus are somewhere in the middle. If you want to be against abortion, you argue that the unobserverable zygote is exactly like the screaming baby, at least when discussing the issue. (In practice, it's a bit different.)
Likewise, those who are pro-choice find themselves (usually, though I don't think this necessary) in the position of saying the morning-sickness causing embryo (and possibly the squirming fetus) are not alive, while the screaming baby is. (Again, logically. In practice, it's different.)
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Date: 2007-05-09 06:02 pm (UTC)I think of it more as a question of when does the zygote/embryo/fetus/baby acheive personhood, and that's a really slippery question. I guess I'd be inclined to say that the ability to respond to stimuli and the development of self-awareness are two big criteria, and there's a large grey area in between.
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Date: 2007-05-09 04:46 pm (UTC)And on the flip side, 70-year-old grandmas and grandpas with really complicated emotional mental feelings who are surrounded by a close-nit group of grieving friends and family with equally complex and sophisticated emotional feelings suffer from the entirely unnecessary indignant mental and physiological degradation of entirely curable diseases. How do the pro-life movement help promote the cause of the suffering elderly? Yeah, they fight against funding research because they privilege the life of a microscopic spec of flesh that has less feeling than a spider about-to-be-smashed on the wall than their 70-year-old grandma with an entire family tree of individuals grieving and hurting at their suffering. I personally feel that the pro-life argument has some serious dissonance that needs to be dealt with in regard to quality of life and true humane accountability.
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Date: 2007-05-13 08:57 am (UTC)I subscribe to what many commenter said about what is to be considered as a central issue. I agree that the point is when life begins, because depending on this we might talk about an object (a group of cells) or a human being.
I personally think that life begins when the egg is fertilized from that point on we can consider that group of cells as a human being. Then everything else follows, like who has the right to decide on that life?
I also agree to other opinions expressed in the comments like that of the 'unwanted child' but for which I think there are viable solutions (like giving the child to a couple that cannot have children).
Also I think that things are not always black and white as depicted in the original post. Although I am pro-life I also think that sex is good and should be explored freely with "the courtesy" of not implying someone else's life into play. I am in favor of anti-conception systems like condoms or women pills to avoid the union of the egg and the sperm (sorry for my poor language here but I lack some vocabulary).
As we do not want to be played in our own life, we should not do that with others' lives. Conception should be a responsible choice. People should not be forced to be parents if they do not want to but fetus should not be killed also because somebody said: "Oops!".
Then all the corollary of extreme cases like: the mother was risking her life to give birth to a sick child, I think are just rhetorical cases taken by politicians to justify their point. If we really want to look at statistics then we should consider the fact that the majority of abortions are those of healthy fetus that are simply not wanted.
My two cents.
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